Inside S.T.I.L.E.T.T.O Friends with Benefits Relationships

Hey Ya'll!! This week's topic is "FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS"

Are there TRULY relationships with no strings attached?! Is that even possible?!......

HMMMMM…..

Female: So you’ve been seeing this dude for quite some time. There are no dates, no public outings, no family visits and only occasionally does he bring you up or introduce you to his friends. You guys only chill when he texts or calls telling you to come over late night/ early morning and it always ends up as “just sex.”

Male: So you’ve found a girl who you are physically & sexually attracted to. You aren’t into the whole committed relationship lifestyle and like to have sex with no strings attached. You call her in the middle of the night, early morning, drunken nights, horny lunch breaks and when it’s over she leaves.  You have some feelings for her but not enough to commit….

Let’s Stop & Think…

Are you ok with this?

Is this degrading & disrespectful that a person is only thought about for sex?

Do you want more but the other person does not feel the same and has made it clear several times??

Is this healthy??

My Opinion… It is only possible for two people to have a "no strings attached relationship" when they both TRULY do not want to be committed. I’ve been able to have a friend with benefit relationship without being attached because I knew I didn’t want any more responsibility than that. However, this gets tricky!!!! Sometimes you don’t want more until you’re in too deep. Where people go wrong is they try to change the situation and make it more than what was agreed. Just because you want more doesn’t mean the other person does and it’s near Impossible to change someone who has no desire for change. So when you begin to have “feelings” and the other person has none as hard as it might be, it’s time to cut off all ties and LEAVE THEM ALONE! You have outgrown the situation.

Now if the other person catches feelings too and you both decide to make it more keep in mind how ya’ll started and that things may start to feel awkward and just won’t work!!! Either way be VERY cautious when signing up to be friends with benefits….It can ruin your reputation, your future relationships and often times friendships!